6 things you must know as a parent

Why, is parenting a child is so difficult ?

Whenever we see a child misbehaving, or maybe disrespecting any elder, we always blame their parents for not teaching them moral values.

Don’t you agree, parents?  

Be an example for your child   

 

Be the person you want your child to be. 

Human is a special species as we learn more by imitation^​​. We are programmed to copy other’s actions to understand them and to incorporate them into our own. 

Children, in particular, watch everything their parents do very carefully.  

Respect your old parents if you want to be respected in you older age. 

Read books instead of using mobile phones if you want your children to do the same. 

Don't scold your parents in front of your children if you don't want to get scolded by your children in front of your grandchildren. 

wake up early if you want your child to get up early.    

Inculcate good values from the very beginning 

Do you remember the name of the first chapter of history in your 10th std? 

No right ? , obviously no one remembers. 

But do you remember A-Z alphabets and johny,  jhony yes papa that you studied in nursery? 

Yes. everyone does even till now 

If we can remember what was taught in nursery then why can't we remember our 10th's syllabus which was taught 10 years after nursery. 

This is scientifically proven. our childhood memory is much stronger than our memory as adults. 

Hence, if we teach good habits and moral values to the kids from the very beginning they remember it for their lifetime.   

Stop over – loving your children.  

Who does’t love their own child? And showing your love to your children ist’t wrong.

But showcasing your love by things like: 

1. Fulfilling their luxurious damands (lending them money without asking them reason)

2. Being too much tolerant with your child’s behaviour is bad, rather make them realize their mistake.

3. Over protecting your child makes them feel uncomfortable and dependent. 

Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously every day.    

 

 Let them make mistakes

 

Experience is the best teacher, you must have heard it, right?   

Experience teaches you better than anyone else.  

If you tell your child, not to go near the candle as it is dangerous, he will definitely try to touch it. And once he burns his finger, he will never do the same mistake ever. 

Never stop your child trying new things, even when you know they are doing it wrong. Let them do mistakes and solve it by themselves.  

in this way they will develop problem solving skills and will grow up as a mature adult. 

According to child psychologist JoAnn Deak, kids feel supported when they don’t do something right the first time and they are more likely to keep trying.  

Give them wings and watch them fly. 

Your children is lot more capable then you think.  

Our duty as a parent is to give our children wings, not to carry them and fly. 

Simply speaking, tying shoes knots, giving them a shower, spoon feeding your child every day out of love grows them as a dependent and irresponsible adults. 

Our job as parents is ultimately to teach our children how to care for their own needs. 

The sooner a child becomes successful at self-care, the better.

 We worry so much about all the things that might go wrong that if our child does it we many a times rob our children of the opportunity to try.

Teach them gratitude

Gratitude is the fastest shortcut to happiness. 

Studies done at Berkeley have linked gratitude to increased personal well-being. 

If children are grateful for what they already have in life, they are more likely to be happy. 

Families who sit down to eat together raise healthier children.

teach your children to be thankful to god for what they are. 

Make them do prayers before having dinner showing gratitude to god for giving this food. 

Make them do prayers before going to bed  showing gratitude to god for giving this beautiful day.